The year 2020 did such a bang-up job on so many writers that here were are, nearly halfway through 2021, and most of us are only now beginning to take stock and recover. To shake ourselves off and start looking ahead to “business as usual.”
That’s if we’re fortunate. Some of us are not.
Some of us are not recovering. Some have endured too much over the past year to be able to shake it off and get back to business as usual. And some can’t seem to because we had already reached our breaking point long before 2020 ever reared its ugly head.
I put myself in this latter group. In 2019, I was already feeling browbeaten and brokenhearted as a writer, like I was spinning my wheels and gaining absolutely no traction despite giving every single thing I had to offer, sacrificing everything—my time, my relationships, my physical and mental health—on the altar of the author dream.
So when 2020 hit, I had no reserves—creative or otherwise—to help me weather the storm. I had given too much, and given unwisely. And so I found myself left without too much but the thought: “Where did all my time and energy GO? Why do I have nothing to show for it?”
So I examined all of my writing and writing-related activities over the past couple of years to find the answer. And, uh, it turns out that the balance of actual writing I was doing to writing-RELATED things was . . . well . . . off. Way more than I’d realized at the time.
What do I mean by this? I mean that most of my “writing” time was being taken up by things that were not actual writing, but that still felt like an important part of “being a writer.” Things like participating in professional development organizations and critique or beta groups. Reading for reviews, writing reviews, blogging, and social media. Even things like promoting other books in my genre or trying to read all the big-name titles in that genre (once that may have been possible, but now it’s no longer feasible). Basically, I spent my time on the things that made me a good “literary citizen” . . . but also things that, because I did not keep them in check, took all of my time and energy and provided me with very little return.
We live in a culture of hustle. And I was HUSTLING.
Further, the act of hustling—even though I didn’t realize it at the time—was slowly KILLING my ability to write as well as any joy I used to find in my stories. And when I started to realize what was happening to me, and talking about it with other writers, I learned I was not alone. The culture of hustle and the pressure to perform personality in the name of platform building (more often for someone else’s gain than our own) had ensnared more of us than any of us realized. Our wheels have been spinning but we’ve been getting nowhere . . . because our energy has been misdirected.
Now there’s a chance that none of what I’m saying resonates with you. (If not, GOOD!)
But if it does—in the event that you, too, are caught in the hustle—that you, too, feel little joy each time you sit down to write these days:
I give you permission to STOP.
If you want to. If you need to. STOP. Adjust your oxygen mask. Make sure that stream of life-saving air is hitting YOUR system instead of being diverted someplace else. Please.
In fact, here is a list of things that you can STOP doing right now:
Reading books that you don’t enjoy
Yes, even if they’re in your genre and even if they sold a bazillion copies and even if you’ve seen the cover splashed over every single social media channel—if you’re not getting something from the experience, put it down.
Reviewing books when you don’t have the time or the inclination
I love sharing my thoughts on the books I read and I’ve written many book reviews over the years. But, even when I absolutely LOVE the title I’m reviewing, it still takes a fair amount of energy and time—two things I find myself increasingly short on. Further, once you start reviewing, you’ll often be asked to review titles you may *not* be quite so in love with—which becomes more and more demands on your time and energy for less and less reward.
Promoting (other people’s) books like it’s your job
It’s not. Worse, you’ll spend your time promoting other people’s books (sometimes pure strangers!) which—even if they’re wonderful—will never feel as good as holding your own published book in your hands. And while it’s totally fine to amp up the excitement over a friend’s upcoming release, or a new title by an author you really love, you don’t have to devote major chunks of time to creating the perfect bookstagram post (or whatever) for every title that’s being cranked out by your favorite pub house in order to get a few more likes or followers. Which brings me to my next point…
Building your “author platform.”
This one is tricky. We all want to immerse ourselves in the literary community and be a part of the conversation. We also want to “get our names out there” in the hopes that our social media following will help entice a publisher to take a chance on our debut. So it’s reasonable to want to get out there and get seen. But . . . do you know who doesn’t actually need an “author platform”? An author who doesn’t finish, query, and sell their book because they’ve been busy devoting too much of their time and energy elsewhere. So before you launch yourself on every social media channel, or start that new blog or podcast, make sure the endeavor is not only something you enjoy and WANT to do, but also that it’s not going to take away from your writing (unless you’re okay with that).
Critiquing and Beta Reading
Both of these can seem like really, really important things for writers—and they are. The trouble comes in when we overextend ourselves. In 2019, I found myself in four different critique groups that each met monthly (one even met twice a month!). On top of that, I agreed to beta read a ton of books—something which I really enjoy, but which takes A LOT of time (at least the way I do it). It was just too much. I’ve pared back a lot, but even now I’m still examining my involvements and whether they’re serving me as well as they might. Maybe we should always be evaluating and making adjustments as needed to ensure we can continue to grow the way we need to as writers.
Take a break. It could be a week, a month, or longer. Take as long as you need to regain perspective and rediscover what it was you loved so much to devote your life—or parts of it—to writing in the first place. It will always be there for you, when you’re ready to return.
So that’s my no-means-complete list of things you can stop doing. As for what you CAN or SHOULD do in order to regain that writerly spark? I’m still working on it. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far:
Write YOUR book at YOUR pace. Be gentle with yourself. Set reasonable goals and try your best to meet them. Forgive yourself if you don’t. Tomorrow is a new day.
Have you dealt with overexertion or burnout in the past? Do you have any tip or tricks for dealing with it? If so, share your experience in the comments so that we can all learn from each other!
Thank you for this! I tell myself all the time that everyone’s path is different and our successes look different too. But it’s encouraging to know that I’m not alone in my way of thinking/hoping/believing. Write what you want, when you want. As long as the work is enjoyable, you can’t go wrong.
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Holy moly, your insights nailed it exactly. “We live in the age of hustle. ” A million times yes.
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Oh my – I feel you wrote this just for me! The other thing that has taken over my time is the number of webinars, workshops, classes, book launches, and author talks that we can participate in because everything is available online. I have had days spent almost entirely in zoom meetings. I am working on saying no and then not worrying about missing out.
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Becca, this rings SO TRUE for me! Work and family first, writerly obligations second, writing…hello? How did I not log a single hour of writing AGAIN this week? Well not this week but you get the idea. Thank you for permission to step back!
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I felt this too!. I was in 3 critique groups and pared it down to 2. I was also spending too much time on social media and I have cut that in half. I have a few blogs that I follow. The one’s that are important are the one’s I get something out of. Susanna Leonard Hill is one of my favorites. I especially love all her contests that get my ideas flowing. You have to do what works for you to create and continue to improve your craft. Thanks so much for this post Rebecca.
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Thanks for reading, Deb! And thanks for the blog recommendation… I love discovering new blog resources!